Tip: Be honest with people when you’re upset/hurt or angry!
It is always something watching people spend their life “eating” their feelings. Many people tend to keep their hurt, anger or other emotions to themselves. When we internalize these emotions they can be redirected towards oneself and can cause depression. I am not telling you to start erupting on people. Yet, if you’re still worried or thinking about what bothered you; rather than keeping it all inside; where you’re essentially arguing with yourself and building the worry/anger. Instead try communicating your feelings. Believe me it can be done with maturity and kindness.
- Communication is healthy for all relationships. It helps to allow everyone in the relationship to be clear and set clear boundaries.
- Be specific and try not to be accusatory. Ex. “When we hung out last week, you said XYZ and to be honest I was really hurt that you would say something like that to me.”
- Internalizing negative emotions is a no no. If healthy confrontation is not an option you still need to learn to release these emotions. (journal, create counter thought log and be honest)