61- 70 are some of the personality traits that make me up Characters or personalities are funny.  I once worked with a young lady who spent her days defining herself as shy, but half of the time she is loud, rude and at time plain ugly towards others. When I approached her about this behavior she kindly told me, “I am shy in my family.”  The reality was she was right, because her family members were very outgoing in comparison to my client.  Many of us define our personalities based on our experience in our worlds and that may not … Continue reading Pieces of Me: 61- 70 are some of the personality traits that make me up

41-60 are some of the things that I do to express who I am Express yourself!  I believe that your actions will always speak louder than your words.  When people hear you say, “I love to dance”, but see you holding up the wall at a party; please don’t get mad when no one believes you love to dance.  I’m not saying you should be on the floor all night, but I am telling you, if you’re in the club you might as well dance.  So how do you love something and never do it? Do what you love. 41-60 … Continue reading Pieces of Me: 41-60 are some of the things that I do to express who I am

31-40 are some of the things that helped build my joy The word build is used to describe something being constructed or formed.  When I think of what builds my joy, I think of actions and others.  What is your joy constructed from and how often do you make sure to partake in these things? 31-40 are some of the things that helped build my joy 31.  I am a risk taker (mostly when it fits my dreams) 32.  I can be open to new things 33.  But then again I can be closed if I feel unprepared; I mean … Continue reading Pieces of Me: 31-40 are some of the things that helped build my joy

21-30 are some of the things I’ve learned and adjusted over time to fit my joy I remember when I was in high school; I was so Pro-Black that it came off as anti-everything.  I look back at that stage with such admiration because it was the first sign that I could receive information and it actually created an emotion that led to action… how else would I have become an advocate?   Sounds silly, but over time I was able to find a Love of Being Black that didn’t isolate others or deny my feeling.  Growth is learning to adjust … Continue reading Pieces of Me: 21-30 are some of the things I’ve learned and adjusted over time to fit my joy

11-20 are some of the thing that feed my joy At some point in our lives we have to learn how to define what makes us happy.  This section gives us a chance to look at what feeds our joy; is it, a character trait or a simple action.  Make your list and then ask yourself how often you feed your joy. 11-20 are some of the thing that feed my joy 11.  I am full of love 12.  I am painfully honest 13.  I am a supporter of what is good/ right 14.  I love feeling, happy so I … Continue reading Pieces of Me: 11-20 are some of the thing that feed my joy

As I sit here listening to Ledisi’s song “Pieces of Me”; a thought crossed my mind, what are the pieces that make up a person?  The truth is that God only knows the whole of a person.   As a therapist, I have asked people to tell me who they are, who they want to be, or even what makes them up.  This question can be very challenging and upsetting for some who struggle with defining themselves in a world that is mostly defined by their past. So after some serious thought on how I can help others find the strength … Continue reading Introduction to Pieces of Me (Activity)