13 I’ve learned sometimes those you thought would be around forever just can’t be there. I have to be okay with their new place in my life. This was a tough one for me, because when I love it’s forever, so … Continue reading 13 Things I’ve Learned In 2013
Asking Sunshine! Hi Sunshine, I have been really close with a female for the last 3 years and she didn’t know I liked her a lot. I decided to tell her recently and she told me she wants to stay friends. I know that I am her type of guy; we enjoy the same things, I can make her laugh and when she is upset or hurting I’m the one there. When she is talking about her life, dreams and the type of man she wants, I know I can be her man and help support those dreams. What should … Continue reading Asking Sunshine: The Friend Zone!
Asking Sunshine I have been married for almost 10 years; for the first 5-6 years of my marriage it was just my husband and I. We are both extremely busy professional people; yet we always found time for date night, spending time with our separate friends, travelling and just really enjoying life. Fast forward to current day our lives have totally changed; we are the parents of two small children (2 ½ and 4). When they were younger, adjusting to them felt natural, but now it is causing strain in our marriage. My husband has not complained openly but I … Continue reading Asking Sunshine: Married with Children
Asking Sunshine I have had an on-again, off-again kind of relationship with a guy for about three years. Recently, we have tried to really make it work for real this time, but the results are an interesting mix of chaos and harmony, with the chaos being explosive arguments, digs under the belt, and me trying hard to be better FOR him. My spirit is LOUD in telling me we’re not for each other, but there is so much history there, and I love him at the very least as a close friend. How can I get over this ideal of … Continue reading Asking Sunshine: Dating While Friends
Female friendship and issues of trust… Where it all starts… When I was younger, I, like many females had hurtful relationships with other females. I remember the first time I realized friendship requires trust and that trust can be easily broken. I was around thirteen and attending a church camp with my best friends. I knew this was going to be a great summer; that feeling quickly changed when camp started. I found myself at the center of a love triangle I never knew existed. The girl I had called best friend since 2nd grade was spreading rumors that I … Continue reading Rebuilding Trust in Our Female Relationships
Changing Toxic Friendships: Maybe we should make this goodbye the last A few weeks ago we talked about recognizing the toxic friend. I’m sure we all could picture some people that match the different types or at least came really close. Well the next part is the real work; “what to do next?” Seems simple right; well like all unhealthy relationships ending; it usually is far from simple. So when discussing the ending of a toxic relationship, trust me, I know this one thing for sure; it is better to deal with ending it healthy because if not it will … Continue reading Changing Toxic Friendships: Maybe we should make this goodbye the last
What About Your Friends: Recognizing a Toxic Friendship When it comes to friendships I have had my fair share of good, not so good and just flat out bad. I’ve had the friend that would mimic everything I did; down to my hairstyle. I’ve had the friend that when we spoke, somehow, the conversation always led back to her. I pride myself on being a good communicator, but I’m sure she couldn’t tell you a single thing about me. I can go on and on with the different things I’ve allowed over the years when it came to accepting things … Continue reading What About Your Friends: Recognizing a Toxic Friendship
“I’m married to my best friend” When Ace and I first met it seemed like we just couldn’t find the time to actually go out on a date. We would plan a date, something would come up and we somehow would be … Continue reading I’m married to my best friend: How life really plays out?
Recently, I’ve been thinking about the words “independent” and “married” and how people grow attached to the titles. As you know I’ve traded the “single” title, for “married”, yet people seem to believe that my independence was lost in the exchange. Let me start by saying I hold both titles in high esteem, because each provide a different set of lessons and experiences. So the question is does this new “married” title make me less independent? It appears that way to some. I have noticed through conversations with married people and/or the strange way single people now choose to interact … Continue reading Untitled…
I see you from a far, I smile. I adjust my head to fall into your chest. A hug so easy and right. Being this close, I am forced to acknowledge your heartbeat. This much is true, I’ve been waiting for an excuse to be here with you. Yes, I know it has been way too long, for me to recall so much detail of your touch. As I slowly remove my head from your chest. I look up to be greeted by those beautiful brown eyes. Not to mention your scent is heavenly, just as I remember. I attempt … Continue reading Chance Encounter
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