Sunshine’s Have Nots: #3 Personalities to Stay Clear

After I wrote the “3 people worth having around,”  I started thinking about the type of people I steer clear of to maintain my happiness.  The list could get lengthy but I got it down to three personalities that tend to turn me off, for one reason or another. 1. The “No Self-Esteemer.” Now we all have ups and downs when it comes to confidence.  This person is different they literally have no self-esteem.  This personality trait spells drama with a captial D.   I’m going to let you into a secret;  I am not saying they intend to be unhealthy but they … Continue reading Sunshine’s Have Nots: #3 Personalities to Stay Clear

The Story Behind the Sexually Confident

Sex! A subject that although publicly discussed in the media, still remains taboo in the Black Community.  For Black women, it’s a topic that when discussed, we tread lightly to make sure we appear “proper” in the eyes of those who believe as we do about sex.  Usually, this is in response to what we have been taught from our families, communities, religious background and/or media.   When I entered my 30’s, the subject of sex, sexuality and what I desired came to the forefront and I was forced to examine these areas; honestly.  It was then that I realized how … Continue reading The Story Behind the Sexually Confident

Rebuilding Trust in Our Female Relationships

Female friendship and issues of trust… Where it all starts… When I was younger, I, like many females had hurtful relationships with other females.  I remember the first time I realized friendship requires trust and that trust can be easily broken.  I was around thirteen and attending a church camp with my best friends. I knew this was going to be a great summer; that feeling quickly changed when camp started.  I found myself at the center of a love triangle I never knew existed.  The girl I had called best friend since 2nd grade was spreading rumors that I … Continue reading Rebuilding Trust in Our Female Relationships

Changing Toxic Friendships: Maybe we should make this goodbye the last

Changing Toxic Friendships: Maybe we should make this goodbye the last A few weeks ago we talked about recognizing the toxic friend.  I’m sure we all could picture some people that match the different types or at least came really close.  Well the next part is the real work; “what to do next?”  Seems simple right; well like all unhealthy relationships ending; it usually is far from simple.  So when discussing the ending of a toxic relationship, trust me, I know this one thing for sure; it is better to deal with ending it healthy because if not it will … Continue reading Changing Toxic Friendships: Maybe we should make this goodbye the last