What About Your Friends: Recognizing a Toxic Friendship

What About Your Friends: Recognizing a Toxic Friendship When it comes to friendships I have had my fair share of good, not so good and just flat out bad.  I’ve had the friend that would mimic everything I did; down to my hairstyle.  I’ve had the friend that when we spoke, somehow, the conversation always led back to her.  I pride myself on being a good communicator, but I’m sure she couldn’t tell you a single thing about me.  I can go on and on with the different things I’ve allowed over the years when it came to accepting things … Continue reading What About Your Friends: Recognizing a Toxic Friendship

I’m married to my best friend: How life really plays out?

“I’m married to my best friend” The chill from the wind made this Saturday, October night seem different than any before.  I watched as children dressed in costumes dominated my neighborhood with their hopes for filling bags with treats.  I was wearing a simple pair of dark jeans, stone wash jean jacket (yes I said stone wash) over my favorite yellow, red, black and green tee-shirt.  Far from over dressed, I had two simple plans; go to the Black Star concert and get home safely.  Both plans I achieved without a hitch.  It is what that took place between those … Continue reading I’m married to my best friend: How life really plays out?

Reconcilable Differences Part 4

A Single Woman’s Divorce I hold on for dear life as if your touch was that of my husband The treatment of girlfriends are different than wives.   Words that ring out the story of commitment “I’m not going anywhere.” But I can’t tell you; What if anything would keep you here. I lay alone in my tears. Challenged by my past. Claiming to myself “I will not play this role again.” I rollover to the spot where you once laid your head; These tears don’t make this our place. I tell myself “I am not your wife.” Just because … Continue reading Reconcilable Differences Part 4

Happy Birthday Ace!!!

Happy Birthday to my best friend and love of my life… Ace, last year when I asked “what you wanted for your birthday”…you only said to spend it with me.  I couldn’t understand because you just spent the week before showering me with gifts for my birthday.  Now to me at that moment in time, it seemed unbelievable that a gift was as simple as being “present.”  But from this and every year to follow for my birthday the only gift I will need is to spend it with you….Love you! Continue reading Happy Birthday Ace!!!

To My Husband to Be…. “When you find me”

I love how God works just when you least expect it, he shows up and in this case he showed off…  I had almost conceded that this was not my season for love outside of God, family and friends.  Then God went and inserted “Al-Lateef Farmer” here; with “here” being my heart.   So here goes…Long before the October night; when you gave up your spot so I could see Mos and Talib hit the stage.  Long before the November evening; where Stevie Wonder played in the background as we sat in the car and talked well into the night.  Long before the January afternoon; I came to pray for … Continue reading To My Husband to Be…. “When you find me”