This month has my wedding anniversary in it…so I’m going to share 5 songs my husband and I enjoy together. 1. Mr Incredible Ms Unforgettable by Leela James Ft. Raheem DeVaughn (Our 1st Dance) 2. The Panties by Mos Def (The … Continue reading Radiant Sunshine’s Playlist
#5 You know there is a real chance you are not the only one… #4 You’ve hurt her so much; you’re no longer sure what she will do next… #3 She told you that she has cheated on her ex-boyfriend(s)… #2 She does something wrong and blames it on you…when your hands are clean #1 She calls you the wrong name…then offers no real explanation… Continue reading She May Not Be The One (Music)
“I’m married to my best friend” The chill from the wind made this Saturday, October night seem different than any before. I watched as children dressed in costumes dominated my neighborhood with their hopes for filling bags with treats. I was wearing a simple pair of dark jeans, stone wash jean jacket (yes I said stone wash) over my favorite yellow, red, black and green tee-shirt. Far from over dressed, I had two simple plans; go to the Black Star concert and get home safely. Both plans I achieved without a hitch. It is what that took place between those … Continue reading I’m married to my best friend: How life really plays out?
Top 5 “You need to Get Over Him” Songs… #5 When you are accepting the nonsense he puts you through… #4 When the man has you breaking laws… #3 When the health of loving him has you torn in pieces… #2 When you actually start seeming a little crazy yourself over him… #1 The delusion that something is still in place; when it is truly over… Continue reading You need to Get Over Him (Music)
Recently, I’ve been thinking about the words “independent” and “married” and how people grow attached to the titles. As you know I’ve traded the “single” title, for “married”, yet people seem to believe that my independence was lost in the exchange. Let me start by saying I hold both titles in high esteem, because each provide a different set of lessons and experiences. So the question is does this new “married” title make me less independent? It appears that way to some. I have noticed through conversations with married people and/or the strange way single people now choose to interact … Continue reading Untitled…
A Single Woman’s Divorce I hold on for dear life as if your touch was that of my husband The treatment of girlfriends are different than wives. Words that ring out the story of commitment “I’m not going anywhere.” But I can’t tell you; What if anything would keep you here. I lay alone in my tears. Challenged by my past. Claiming to myself “I will not play this role again.” I rollover to the spot where you once laid your head; These tears don’t make this our place. I tell myself “I am not your wife.” Just because … Continue reading Reconcilable Differences Part 4
The Other Woman “The other woman finds time to manicure her nails; the other woman is perfect where her rival fails. And she’s never seen with pin curls in her hair… And when her old man comes to call, He’ll find her waiting like a lonesome queen. ’cause when she’s by his side it’s such a change from her old routine. ” Nina Simone When I was younger I absolutely fell in love with Nina Simone’s music. I would sit quietly on this plastic covered couch trying my hardest not to scratch or get caught playing my grandmother’s records. … Continue reading Reconcilable Differences Part 3
No Fuss You don’t make a fuss over me Don’t spend time trying to convince me of my beauty You can careless about the style of my hair Make-up on or off, you never seem to care I can think through an outfit all day long To you it’s nothing different Chances are you won’t remember a thing I had on I don’t remember the last time you looked me in the eyes Just to tell me that I’m beautiful Come on, really you still can’t understand why I’m not making a fuss as I walk out the door. Continue reading No Fuss
Imperfections of the Soul I’m glad you helped me: to make a fool of myself one more time. Helped me realize how easy it is to lose focus on what matters. Thanks for making me say things. I thought I could never say again. For helping me believe there has to be “better” out there, yet you’re not it. I’m glad you helped me: to understand that it’s too late for apologies, or simply realize everything that glitters definitely isn’t gold. Thank you for making me know I can feel pleasure, when I thought I never would again. … Continue reading Imperfections of the Soul
Perfect Stranger In the arms of a stranger, I search for my sanctuary. I come to you for the familiar touch of your hands. The way you command my every move when we are together As if you know all about what I need. Yet you know nothing about me or my needs. You are merely a stranger. Clearly, I am not convinced of your abilities to understand without understanding. Instead, I exhaust myself in the pleasures of what you do and not what you say you do. You are merely a stranger. I … Continue reading Perfect Stranger
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