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Asking Sunshine: Considering Casual Sex

Sharea Farmer, LCSW

Asking Sunshine Hey Sunshine, I am about to blow your mind, because I’ve got a bunch of stuff going through my mind at this point.  I hope you can help.  I recently met this dude on Twitter and we’ve been exchanging direct messaging for a few days.  I’m not delusional and won’t claim to know him at all (I only know what he tells me about him).  I know it could be a lie.  Here is my issue, sis, I think I would like to have sex with him.  He sends me photos of himself kind of naked and it … Continue reading Asking Sunshine: Considering Casual Sex

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You May Be In Love When You Find Yourself… (Music)

Sharea Farmer, LCSW

#5 Feeling the reason you live is as simple as their smile… #4 Offering up private dances to express your happiness… #3 Wanting them to have it all because you feel they are one in a million… #2 Physically and emotionally all in to where this love will take you… #1 Having to express the four letter word… Continue reading You May Be In Love When You Find Yourself… (Music)

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Asking Sunshine…Dating Preference: No Kids

Sharea Farmer, LCSW

Asking Sunshine Hey Sunshine, A co-worker recently set me up with their friend through Facebook.  However, once I looked through his photo albums, I noticed that he has a small child.  I don’t date men with children (too many horror stories) and I’m just not trying to take those issues on. I have two questions: 1. Am I wrong for not wanting to date a man with children? 2. How do I word this gently without hurting the feelings of my co-worker and his friend? Dear Dating Preference: No Kids OK, let me start by saying that everyone is allowed … Continue reading Asking Sunshine…Dating Preference: No Kids

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I Can Love You Better (Music)

Sharea Farmer, LCSW

#5  When you believe you can offer him what he has been missing…   #4 When you believe you can offer her what she has been missing…   #3 Trying to show that you offer more than him…   #2 When you are sure that you can offer more…   #1  When you have finally gotten to the point  of confidence that no one can touch how you love…..   Continue reading I Can Love You Better (Music)

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Asking Sunshine: Waiting to Be Married

Sharea Farmer, LCSW

Asking Sunshine… Hi Sunshine! I have been seeing the same guy since my junior year in college and we are now almost 30. I want to start a family once we are married, but the last 5 years he has said “next year, my question is how do I get him to understand time is ticking or should I just wait? Dear Waiting To Be Married.. If I give it to you straight, then a few sentences in you may be upset with me because I’m not giving you the answer you expect.  I say this because every situation is … Continue reading Asking Sunshine: Waiting to Be Married

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Asking Sunshine: Attracted to My Husband’s Best Friend

Sharea Farmer, LCSW

Asking Sunshine I’m a 32-year-old married woman. I love my husband of 6 years, but recently I found myself attracted to my husband’s best friend. We all went to college together and for a brief time I dated him prior to even meeting my husband. We didn’t work and never had sex, but we’ve continued as good friends; he even introduced me to my now husband.  My husband teases us saying things like, “You guys have more in common”, or to him “Still mad I married your woman?” We laugh it off, but now I’m starting to wonder “what if”? … Continue reading Asking Sunshine: Attracted to My Husband’s Best Friend

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Asking Sunshine: Married with Children

Sharea Farmer, LCSW

Asking Sunshine I have been married for almost 10 years; for the first 5-6 years of my marriage it was just my husband and I.  We are both extremely busy professional people; yet we always found time for date night, spending time with our separate friends, travelling and just really enjoying life. Fast forward to current day our lives have totally changed; we are the parents of two small children (2 ½ and 4). When they were younger, adjusting to them felt natural, but now it is causing strain in our marriage.  My husband has not complained openly but I … Continue reading Asking Sunshine: Married with Children

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Asking Sunshine: Dating While Friends

Sharea Farmer, LCSW

Asking Sunshine I have had an on-again, off-again kind of relationship with a guy for about three years. Recently, we have tried to really make it work for real this time, but the results are an interesting mix of chaos and harmony, with the chaos being explosive arguments, digs under the belt, and me trying hard to be better FOR him. My spirit is LOUD in telling me we’re not for each other, but there is so much history there, and I love him at the very least as a close friend. How can I get over this ideal of … Continue reading Asking Sunshine: Dating While Friends